There is not a law written somewhere that says stepmoms must be friends with the bio-moms. And for some reason whenever there isn’t a solid relationship between stepmoms and bio-moms there is some negativity from outside observers. But this isn’t always the case! It doesn’t have to be a bad thing that you don’t have a friendship with the ex wife.
So stepmama, I hope our little long distance blended family guideline to phone calls between the kids and their mom can be helpful to you. And you may be thinking to yourself, well that’s a lot of work and we don’t get to benefit from her doing any of that. But that my friend is the wrong attitude. You’ve got to be proactive and not reactive in this whole blended family thing. Don’t think of, “well she doesn’t do this for us, so we aren’t doing it for her.” Think of it like, “maybe if we start doing this for her, she will do it in return.” And even if…